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Wow 2

I honestly can’t believe how cruel some people are.  What kind of person, a stranger no less, tears down another who is already struggling?  Two people now have chosen to attack me.  And why?  They obviously weren’t actually trying to offer genuine support.  Do others bloggers have this issue, or is it just me???

I hoped blogging would help me through the stress of IVF, which has obviously flowed into other areas of my life.  But twice now, tonight and this morning, I’ve been made to feel as if I’m failing in my marriage because Eric and I have disagreements.  Blogging should not make me want to cry.  Perhaps it’s time to take down my site and find a new way to release tension and stress.

21 thoughts on “Wow 2

  1. I’ve known of other bloggers who have had readers make hurtful comments–these people are called “trolls” because they troll message boards and blogs and will pick arguments and say hurtful things, just because they can. Taking down the blog means they “win”. Just try to ignore the comments–don’t post about them anymore because then the troll will pick at you because they know it’s working. XO

    1. Wow…. This is new to me. Apparently I’m so naive, I can’t imagine anyone being that hurtful on purpose. I must have a lot to learn in life. I see I can mark the comments as spam or unapprove, but… I don’t know…

      1. My friend was driven mad by a troll that attacked her after a miscarriage–it was horribly cruel and I went so far as to post on her blog that I would beat their a**, if whoever it was wanted to take a shot at me. I’ve had a couple off-color comments but nothing I found hurtful. Sorry sweets 🙁 XO

        1. Well, I just noticed that while all the rude comments had different user names, they all had the same email address. Ugh. Better I know now. Moving on! My life has so many amazing parts, I refuse to let some loser bring me down!

  2. I agree with what the poster above (mylifeacasestudy) wrote. Something that may help is to change your blog settings so that you can monitor what comments end up on your blog. Approve them before they go live. This way you can delete anything negative and move on (easier said than done).

    1. I did think of changing that setting. But I’d still have to read their hurtful words…

  3. Ignore those ignorant people as they clearly have issues if they need to tear someone down. How sad. It’s like a bully in school. What ever happened to the golden rule of if you can’t say something nice don’t say nothing at all. I like you blog because it has helped me understand what a person with infertility goes throug. And gosh if they think your marriage is bad they should look at.mine!

    1. Thank you Cari! I just realized all the crappy comments were under different user IDs but the same email. I marked their comments as spam.

  4. Sorry you are going through this. I don’t know why ppl have to put in their 2 cents. You are going through a lot with hormones & nesting this added BS is not needed. If they don’t like what you say than they shouldn’t read it! Hope you have a great week.

    1. Thank you, and you too!

  5. i have never had negative comments so i can’t help with that but you can make some posts privates. if you need to write to release stress but don’t want to subject yourself to the cruelty of others, you can make it just for you. i have done private posts before. things i wanted to keep record of but not necessarily share with the world. i also started to get into a rut with my blog when i was down or not going through fertility treatments. i decided to incorporate things about my life and hobbies as well. it spices things up a bit and also helps you feel like you’ve more going on in life than just getting through the next TTC phase. i guess at the end of the day, we’re all subject to anything that anyone wants to throw at us. it’s sad that people would waste their time hurting others as this TTC/infertility community is pretty close-knit and typically caring. can you block these losers? kick them out of your site and stay focused on the people that support you. xox

    1. Thank you 🙂 I’m not sure I can block them, but I did mark their comments as spam.

  6. OMG, that is just awful!! I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m also so sorry that some evil people have targeted you on this blogsite. Stay strong and know that those that are struggling WITH you in this community would never judge you. Hang in there and don’t let it get you down!! xo

  7. I agree with case study – change your settings! But remember that you can’t reason with crazy and ignore their comments. Delete them and don’t look back. I hate to say it but I think that crazy and insensitive comments are the price you “pay” for this public forum. Most are just trying to get a response. Makes you wish they’d go back to watching reality tv! But just remember it’s not about you! They could care less and it shows. The support and love here more than makes up for these folks. They aren’t cruel – they are simply in need of your attention!! Don’t give it.

    1. Thank you! I just updated my settings. Sad one has to do this, but so be it.

  8. A blog is a place you should be able to talk about anything you wish without being judged. I’m sorry someone has felt the need to attack you. Some things in life are hard enough without others being rude and inconsiderate.

  9. That is awful, I’m so sorry to hear that. Some people are just the worst, don’t let them bring you down! Anyone who is critical of someone else’s marriage usually does so because they are miserable in their own!

  10. Some people make me so angry that I could do something physically crazy. That is awful, I cannot believe that people actually intentionally do stuff like that! MLACS, thanks for the heads up! And I love that you would put the smack down ;). I hope you are feeling better today, lady, I am sorry this is so awful hard right now and I am so happy to have found your blog and your story!

    1. Thank you! I will keep writing, and I probably will keep complaining… It’s my outlet… I’ll just be making a point to eliminate the awful people from my life!

  11. I am so sorry you have felt attacked. I have found the community to be mostly positive and I know and trust that being brave and sharing our stories is more important for breaking the silence and honoring my story than the hateful people who will never get it. Sending your light, love and strength! Justine

    1. Thank you 🙂

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