Another day, another… How much do I make? And how much did I spend at Java House today? I often wonder if I’d have more money if I didn’t work. Just a thought!
One new development in baby-making-land, for lack of a better term. For the past month my mind has been racing with questions relating to our past IVF cycle. I’ve heard many of you speak of your WTF appointment, but I’ve never had such, not with any of our failed IUIs either. So I decided today I was going to call and request such an appointment. Of course, I referred to it as a consult.
I dialed, got Ann, the lady who always checks me in and out, explained how I’d like to schedule a consult, explained I had questions and wanted to understand how and when we can move forward with our next attempts at creating a tiny mix of Eric and me. Why I thought this was just something they would schedule, I don’t know, I mean, I am a current patient. But no, Ann informed me a nurse would have to review my chart and give me a call back to discuss. I was annoyed, but okay.
Later Jennifer, one of the nurses I really like, called back. I had given the clinic my work number, so of course, others were probably close enough to hear, and thus I was hoping it would be a quick conversation, free of symptom review. I mean, who wants to explain their bleeding pattern for coworkers to hear?
Jennifer reiterated that we still need to wait for my beta to register less than 3 before we can move ahead with anything, which I completely understand. I guess there is a huge part of me though that expects it to be zero on Monday at my next lab visit, my reason for wanting to know and plan next steps now. Jennifer said she actually believed as well that my beta will be zero on Monday, but I was still getting the impression she was pushing me off, as if she didn’t really want to schedule me my much needed WTF appointment.
Jennifer went on to explain that if my results on Monday are zero, the team of specialists will discuss my case at their weekly team meeting on Tuesday to decide how we proceed. I expressed my own concerns, letting Jennifer know that I understand the physicians need to discuss my case, but I want to discuss it too. Then she asked if I’d gotten a period yet. Um… I said no, since I was at work, and it is true, I don’t believe I’ve gotten a period yet, but there is certainly more to the story, exactly why I want to talk to an actual doctor, in person! I was not about to explain to Jennifer that while my bleeding had stopped way back when, when I called to make the first beta appointment, it started up maybe five days after that, and hasn’t stopped since. But how does one code that for discussion at work??? And even if I had stopped bleeding for good back then, how would I have gotten another period already? It’s only been 34 days since I took those awful pills.
Then, the best part of the conversation, or worst, depending on how you look at it… Jennifer said as long as I get a period between July 11th and September 4th I can be included in the next uptime for IVF. Um… They told me I needed three normal periods!!! To which she said, oh, well, we will have to discuss that I guess.
So, I’m confused, and a little pissy. I’m trying to plan a life here, and grow a human, and they can’t even get their stories straight?? Now granted, I have complete faith in my team of specialists, but I’ll admit, sometimes the communication is a bit sucky.
So long story short, my WTF appointment is a week from tomorrow. I have lots of questions in my head, but obviously need to get them all down on paper, since I’m only 50% sure Eric will be able to join me with such short notice. Question to those of you who have been through a miscarriage and/or failed IVF cycle, what questions should I make sure to ask?