Yesterday morning, in my yucky state of morning sickness mind, I sent my boss an email to check the status of my part-time request. I was secretly hoping it had been approved and I could leave at noon. No such luck. It took until yesterday afternoon for her to call me into her office for a de-brief.
To be quite honest, I don’t even understand the conversation her and I had yesterday, in her office, just the two of us. First she pointed out that she had a meeting scheduled the following day, so today, with her boss and HR to discuss my part-time request. The more she said though, the more I realized the meeting wasn’t so much about my part-time request as it was about her back-filling my position, and apparently before I’m ready to leave.
See, I’ve been quite frank with my boss. She knows I requested part-time for several reasons, one being I’m bored, as slowly she has transitioned my work to my two teammates in anticipation of me leaving when Eric’s residency is complete in June. When I requested part-time I specifically told my boss that I really felt like I could still handle 90% of my workload. That should have thrilled her, right? Wrong! Apparently this scared the crap outta her, and thus she wants to hire another part-time individual now to pick up the work I won’t be able to complete in only 20 hours a week. Work that honestly isn’t there to give. Oh, and this part-time person has to share my desk, as we don’t have space for an additional employee. No wait, it gets better.
Allow me to recap a few of the phrases spoken by my boss during our meeting yesterday:
- Now that you’ve seen the heartbeat, I figured you’d be more excited and wouldn’t want to be here.
- You married a doctor, you don’t need to work.
- You’re not really going to want to drive here in the winter, while pregnant, for just 4 hours a day.
There were more, but honestly those are the only ones I recall before my brain sort of shut down. At one point in the conversation my boss asked if I needed to discuss all this with Eric. I said, discuss what? In my perfect world, I go part-time now, which shouldn’t hurt the team, and I work part-time until May before I have the baby. Her response, “that doesn’t work for me.” Yes, she said those words. Her biggest fear is not having coverage for year-end, which is June. Basically she wants to have my replacement hired and trained by June, whether I go part-time now or stay full-time. This means, for her to have enough time, since the hiring process here is turtle slow, she believes I’d need to quit in January, since she can’t even advertise for my position until I’m gone.
I really wasn’t sure what to say. Me asking for part-time now didn’t have anything to do with when I would leave the University. I mean, she’s known all along when Eric is finished, but I honestly thought it was up to me to decide when I give my notice. Can she tell me when I have to quit so that she can hire my replacement? I’m so confused, and frustrated, and hurt really. How is her year-end coverage my problem? Should a manager even be discussing that with the employee? And why the hell would she hire another part-time employee when I’m so bored? Clearly she doesn’t understand the workload here.
Her meeting with HR is later today, I’ll fill you all in when I know more. I’m not included in the meeting, so God only knows what my boss will tell HR I want… I wish I could be there to say, I want to stay working here until May…