August 31, 2015 – 24 Weeks (13 Weeks Corrected)

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So it’s Friday, right?  I almost missed posting again this week!

Busy busy is how I feel.  Eric’s work hours are as intense as residency.  Basically I can’t depend on him for any help at home, with Nora or otherwise.  Not his fault, just how his profession works I guess.  Not sure I’ll ever get used to it though.  It’s harder here, being away from my friends and further from my family.  I can see myself getting really lonely soon if I don’t find a way to connect with some people here.  So far the only person I talk to regularly is the owner of Home Interiors.  Sweet lady, older, and her store has AMAZING stuff, but…  Well, let’s just say I left today feeling very discouraged.  Earlier in the week the owner came to my home to get a feel for the space we’re working with, and today I went there to view some pieces.  I found a bedroom set I love, for $15k.  And then a sectional I thought was super neat, for $12k.  Do people really spend that kind of money on furniture?  I mean, do I just not know what stuff costs??  And she’s coming over Sunday afternoon to measure our windows for coverings.  Dear God, how much will those cost???  I guess I need to talk to Eric tonight and find out how much we are actually interested in spending.  The pieces are unique and I can only assume excellent quality, but geez that’s a ton of cash.

Since Eric is no help to me I need to hire some help I guess…  I have a cleaning lady coming Tuesday to provide an estimate, and then there is help with Nora…  I need some advice from those of you who know far more about this than me…  I posted an ad for a part-time nanny on care.com.  I got a ton of applicants, and so far I’ve narrowed it down to 11, but what do I do now?  I can’t really interview all 11, can I?  Should I?  What do I ask them?  Do we meet in person?  At my house, or should I pick a public location?  I just have no idea how to go about this now.  And the thought of leaving Nora with a virtual stranger scares the heck outta me!

I also need to set up a fence install, as walking Kona to go to the bathroom is really getting old, and our sod was placed on Wednesday!!  Which reminds me, I also need to hire lawn care and snow removal.  Oh the list goes on and on.

Nora is still sleeping through the night, and I’m attempting to get her on a schedule during the day, but I’m not really trying all that hard.  I have learned that she will take quite a nice nap, up to three hours, if I put her where she sleeps during the night, next to our bed in a rock n’ play.  I was previously just letting her nap where she fell asleep, which was usually in the living room with me, in her swing, with the TV blaring and sun shining.  I now see why that wasn’t the brightest idea.  Live and learn.

I know I need to get out and about, making friends, actually do something with my days, but it feels so overwhelming to get ready, get Nora ready, pack her bag…  I mean, it’s hard enough just getting to the grocery store!  Maybe I’ll try to venture out for a walk with Nora yet this afternoon, and maybe take Kona too.  Maybe.  No promises!

15 thoughts on “August 31, 2015 – 24 Weeks (13 Weeks Corrected)

  1. Check language. Check time available versus your needs. Call and see if they are responsive to calls…. some people do not pick up phone or return messages. Interview at your home and see how they interact with Nora and ask them how they do some basic care tasks, what they enjoy most with her age group (think ahead2 months), what common ‘need a nap’ signs do they know, do they talk about taking her on stroller rides, how would they get her to a park, what snacks do they like for year old children, etc. Like meeting new girl friends you know pretty fast how the interaction is.
    First few times have carer come when you will be home but have calls or work to do. Think about their questions and watch their reliability and you will witness their comfort zone with fragile/new babies and how aware they are of Nora’s reactions and responses.
    Finding new women friends is hard in a new location. However, going to the park, a gym with a child care area for use while parent exercises, bookstore or library for book groups, go to children’s story hour at library, church if you attend one, YMCA OR YWCA in your area often have babyandme classes, look on line for any mothers groups in your area, park and recreation departments, school districts sometimes have adult ed classes. The first year is really hard, keep trying and it falls into place.

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    1. Thank you, these are good questions that I wouldn’t have thought to ask. And you have great suggestions on meeting people here, I think my problem is that I’m such an introvert. I find it comfortable at home, but yet hate being alone all the time when Eric is working. I know, I can’t have it both ways!

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  2. Wow, I am surprised that a shop like that stays in business in a small town. I finally bought very nice furniture ($18K for couch,chair, loveseat and ottoman), but feel like I have to keep it forever. So make sure you LOVE it before you pay that much. Cheap furniture is great when you like to change things up every 5 to 10 years.
    As far as getting a nanny, yes, interview them all at your house. Stick Nora in their lap and watch how they interact with her. You will learn a lot doing that and will have an easier time picking someone. The questions you ask are about their experience, references, how they handle certain situations, commitment, future plans ,etc.
    Good luck!

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  3. Yikes! I couldn’t spend that kind of money on furniture, but I’ve never had that much to spend! Love Nora’s face in the last picture! I hope you can get out and make some new mom friends, it’s tough being on your own so much!

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    1. Yeah, I can’t really swallow spending that much either! And it is tough to be alone with Nora here so much. The days feels so long. Eric left at 7am this morning and it’s after 8pm and he still has several more hours at work yet tonight. Wouldn’t be so bad if this was every now and again, but it’s every single night, usually 7 days a week 😦

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  4. Back in 2007, we had a person come over to our house (the store is no longer in CR as it closed) and the lady measured all of our windows and came up with a price of approximately $30K for window coverings. Many of which I did not like – we didn’t go w/her. I bought my own from many different places and liked them better. I think our couch, chair and ottoman were around $7K and that was also back in 2007 which I now need to sell as it doesn’t fit in my current house. If you are thinking about building a new house in the next few years you may want to keep that in mind because what works in your current house may not work in the next house. For instance, my $7K living room set is too big for my new house as my new living room is smaller than my old one so now I have it for sale. Kind of just depends on what you want. After being around kids I have decided that I don’t really want anything too nice as they are always eating on it, and spilling on it and not really worth me getting anything nice until they are older and maybe out of the house.

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    1. I totally get the waiting until your kids are older and out of the house, but gosh, I’ll be old by the time mine are! I want to enjoy life instead of always waiting for it to begin. Case in point, the white leather that was delivered today. I hope I don’t regret this purchase!

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  5. I would also definitely make sure the nanny has a background check posted…..I believe care.com has those on some of the people that are on there. You could always have her coming to the house for many visits prior to actually leaving the house and leaving Nora alone with her so you can get more comfortable with her and learn more about her.

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