I received a list of next steps from the surrogacy agency yesterday… Well, if we want to proceed, that is. They sent a list of lawyers we’d need to contact to start the surrogacy agreement/contract. Oh, and they need $10,000.
I also talked to the surrogacy coordinator at our fertility clinic. My entire medical history is at the hospital where this clinic is located, it’s also where both my girls were born. So they know my history. One of the first things the woman said to me was, “you know how much this costs, right?” And she didn’t ask this in a nice way… Next she went on to tell me that their clinic limits surrogacy to those patients where it’s medically necessary. So she asked why we were looking into this… I felt like saying, did you read my entire chart??? So I explain having Nora at 29 weeks and Nadia at 30 weeks. The woman was silent. So I went on to explain that we would prefer to avoid another nicu stay, we see it safer for our embryo to be carried by someone with a history of full term deliveries. She finally responded by saying that not wanting to live through another nicu stay was not a medical reason to qualify us for surrogacy. I said, a specialist at this clinic told me after Nadia was born that they’d expect future pregnancies to end the same for me, meaning early deliveries due to the fact that my cervix starts shortening as early as 12 weeks. So… the lady said she would talk to the team and get back to me…
